HOLLYWOOD'S 'BLAIR-ING' ABOUT JAYSON

Get to know MTV's soon-to-be bad boy on the block, Jayson Blair. Yes, you can hear the girls swoon. MTV's set to debut The Adventures of RJ Berger in June, but you can get to know the handsome hottie now. Blair plays resident BMOC (Big Man on Campus, for those who have no clue), Max Owen, who enjoys antagonizing the beloved dorky title character, RJ. The buzz about this highly anticipated scripted show is bringing a new flavor to MTV. With David Katzenberg at the helm, you can rest assured that when someone mentions the hideous Jersey Shore, you'll be saying "Forgettabout it!' This show is being hailed "Wonder Years" meets "SuperBad" and promises to entertain on a scripted series, not on wanna-be-reality nonsense.

Blair's passion for acting came at a young age and his career thus far is flourishing. If his name doesn't ring a bell, just yet, I bet you will recognize him as the cute guy in the elevator in the Taco Bell commercials last summer holding the Queso Crunchwrap. Yes, he made fast food, super sexy. And that isn't even scratching the surface, he's appeared on Glee, CSI: NY, and Heroes, just to name a few. And the future is bright for this up and comer. With upcoming roles in the films, Public Relations and The Steamroom, next to his series regular role as MTV's most popular love-to-hate jock.

I had the pleasure of working with Jayson a couple of years ago on an indie project called Big Game, that also starred C. Thomas Howell, Haley Webb, and Kevin Horton. And now, I can call him a client. I'm excited about the future of this very deserving young actor. This isn't the last you will hear from Tinseltown's newest heartthrob and I promise to keep him in fresh threads! Move over Bradley Cooper, . . .brunettes are sexier!

HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP IS WORKING

Anyone who has ever been involved in a long-distance relationship knows that distance only makes the heart grow fonder when distance is not the norm. However, it is not all bad and there are limitless things you can do to make a long-distance relationship both fulfilling and feel "normal." There are so many circumstances that cause people to be separated from their significant other, such as military deployment, relocation because of work or school, and the introduction of new relationships via social networking websites. Most of us have been involved in some kind of long-distance relationship with family, friends, and business associates, but undoubtedly, the hardest to maintain is a romantic long-distance relationship. As with any relationship, communication, trust, routine, surprise, and memories are important aspects that will keep the relationship fresh and healthy. I would like to give some ideas and pointers to making your long-distance relationship (or possibility of such a relationship) much more tolerable and (hopefully) enjoyable.


1. Ask yourself how much passion you feel for the other person. Do you eagerly anticipate visits, e-mail and phone calls? Or is making contact a chore?


2. Consider how much attention you give your partner. Do you return e-mail promptly? Do you call when you say you will?

3. Think about how your partner treats you. Is your partner putting as much effort into the relationship as you are? Do you feel cherished? Taken for granted? Neglected?

4. Consider how often you see each other. Do you visit as often as you can? If you frequently choose to spend your time and money on other priorities, you may need to question how important this relationship is to you.

5. Ask yourself whether you trust the other person. Do you feel suspicious about activities or friendships when you're apart? Trust is important in any relationship, but when you're far away, it's even more crucial.

6. Think about the way the two of you communicate. Are you honest and open with each other? Can you be yourselves when you're together? Do you share the day-to-day details of your lives?

7. Consider to what extent your lives are intertwined. Although you're bound to have separate social lives, it's a good sign if you know each other's new friends.

8. Be honest with yourself about why you're in this relationship. Are you motivated by a fear of being alone?

9. Consider your future plans. Do you discuss living in the same city in the future? Do you have a concrete strategy for achieving that?

10. Ask yourself whether your life apart from the other person is more interesting than being together. If so, it may be time to move on.

HOW TO MAKE A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP LAST

Whoever first said that absence makes the heart grow fonder never contended with the weekend airport rush. Here are some ways to hold on to your long-distance lover - and your sanity.


Step 1: Keep in touch daily. If large phone bills are a concern, send e-mail, letters, cards and even faxes.


Step 2: Plan reunions to keep both of you pleased about the relationship. If your partner needs closeness, set up plans to meet often. Having a phone-date to look forward to can help you through the rough times.

Step 3: Reaffirm your love and commitment to one another. Try not to assume that the relationship is thriving. Listen to your partner's concerns and communicate your own before they become bigger problems.

Step 4: Keep your partner informed about your life. You may live separately, but sharing information about your activities and friends is still important.

Step 5: Trust in one another. Suspicion will only break the relationship down.

Step 6: Keep the relationship a high priority. Avoid canceling phone-dates or forgetting to make a phone call.

Step 7: Focus on the future. Make plans to live in the same city eventually.

TECHNO ROMANCE: DATING 2010

In the age where texting instead of talking, and social networking that can cause so much unnecessary drama, that it's almost comical, dating has changed. So what is appropriate and what isn't appropriate, I went straight to my friends (both girls and guys). And came up with a pretty good list of Do's & Don'ts that are pretty typical according to both sexes.

DO's

Understand the purpose of a "social networking site". Everyone uses a social networking site differently, some use it for business and some use it to really keep in touch with friends from high school, college, work, etc. Both sexes say that facebook can cause unnecessary drama because there is no respect boundaries.

Good Morning, beautiful. Is a great way to start the morning. The girls that have received these texts say that a morning text like that could make their whole day. And ladies, it's ok to start it off by texting your guy "Good Morning, handsome," I asked the men and they said that they'd smile if they received a simple text like that.

Allow comments. Allow the person you are dating to post on your "Wall". And definitely recipricate. The groups of men and women I spoke to, like to know that the person they are dating is thinking about them throughout the day, or like one of the guys said, "I like to know that she can't get me off her mind."

Keep your "stalkers" at bay. Ladies, we all know you are a sexy little thing, but the guys aren't really into reading about the other guys who leave you messages like, "I miss you, baby." Don't get me wrong it's ok that your friends who are the opposite sex might miss you, but 'baby' isn't appropriate. And guys, listen up, one of the pet peeves of the ladies, is the "girl" who comments on every single thing you post. You could post, "I just went to the bathroom" and that "girl" will "like it" or leave some lame comment. We kinda don't like "the girl" and it has nothing to do with being insecure at all, it has to do with appropriateness and respectful. And if we were in a different environment, she'd be what Vince Vaughn calls a "Stage 5 clinger" in Wedding Crashers.

It's ok to "like" a friend's photo, but, . . .ladies, let's be respectful of the fellas, do not like or comment something disrespectful on a male friend's photo that is shirtless. We all know that guy friend deserves kudos for putting in the extra time in the gym, but would you like it if a guy did that to a scantily clad female friend? Yea, exactly.

DON'TS

Here are a few warning signs that might hint that that person may not be "that" into you. Because if you address it and it's still happening, . . .I hate to say this, but move on, . . .Here are some of guys and girls gripes when it comes to 2010's and it's "Techno-Romance".

Communicate Clearly. Texting and email is great for short messages that you either do not have the time to say, or to see if you are still on for your date, running late, etc. The downfall behind texting, emailing, and facebooking is that "TONE" is 20% of your communication. The way someone says something is soo important. Not sure you understand, try this exercise. Say the phrase: "I love my job.", say it like you are so happy, you just got a job that you love. Now, say "I love my job.", as if your boss just came in and called you an awful name and handed you even more work to do. The words don't necessarily matter, it's more of the inflection. It's important to have "phone" conversations too. Guys, women fall in love between the ears. Ladies, men fall in love with their eyes.

When "SHE" writes "I LOVE YOU" every single day. Again, appropriateness, we get it, you like, or love each other, but guys do not need you to write that on their page every single day. And guys, girls aren't really a big fan of it either. It's like "pissing on your territory" and its not really attractive.

When "HE" facebooks more than he communicates with you. This actually works for both sexes. If you really like the significant other that you are dating, you should really try the whole texting "Good morning beautiful" or "Good morning handsome", before playing for hours on Facebook. Too much facebook can ruin a relationship. Jason says, "I adore this girl that I am dating, but when she is constantly playing on facebook and hasn't even acknowledged me for the day, it makes me wonder what is more important, Facebook or me." And ladies, I've heard it from you too. Michelle says, "One of my biggest pet peeves on Myspace is when the guy I am dating is posting all kinds of bulletins and blogs, but doesn't respond to any of my texts. Am I wrong?" Looks like we can honestly say now that social networking has increased our unemployment rate even more.

Don't get mad about it, Talk about it. If you are trying to have an "adult" relationship, both sexes, listen up! Instead of getting mad about something when it comes to techno-romance, such as, texting, emailing, and facebooking, TALK ABOUT IT.

If you are blocked/deleted, even after you have worked it out. Warning sign! Either the argument isn't ok, like you think it is or that person is just really not that into you. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out!

DAY 6: NO SUGAR, OH HONEY, HONEY!

DAY 6: NO SUGAR, OH HONEY, HONEY!
When substituting honey for sugar in a recipe, simply substitute honey cup for cup in place of sugar. As a rule reduce the liquid by a ¼ cup for every cup of honey used. In baked goods add ½ tsp. of baking soda for every cup of honey used and reduce oven tempeture 25 degrees than instructions call for. In cookie recipes using eggs and no additional liquid, increase the flour by 2 tablespoons per cup of honey or enough flour to give the desired consistency. Chill before shaping and baking. Helpful Hint: Honey can be measured easily by using the same cup used for measuring the oil in a recipe or by coating a cup or spoon with non-stick vegetable spray. Baked goods with honey brown faster and crisp faster than sugar batter.

A 12 oz. jar of honey equals one cup.

If you want a honey flavor in your recipe, use a stronger flavor honey, if used on for its sweetness you can use the lighter, mild flavored honey.

IN MY OWN WORDS: NFL PLAYERS

Is Twitter becoming a place where celebs can encourage ignorance? I thought Twitter was a great way to show support for kids in Africa and thanks to the positivity of Ashton and Demi, children are sleeping with mosquito nets and the world is just a little bit better of a place. Well, they say ignorance is bliss, I say ignorance is spreading through social networking sites, such a Twitter, and it's disgustting.

I just happened to be on Twitter, as I saw supermodel, Joanna Krupa post:
@joannakrupa: pls sign the petition against the monster and murderer michael vick!!!!!

followed by a @joannakrupa:http://www.change.org/actions/view/petition_against_awarding_michael_vick_the_ed_block_courage_award.

Since when is it ok to allow convicted murderers to win awards and play in the NFL, but Michael Vick who was reinstated by NFL commissioner, Roger Goodell this year, after his poor choices with dogfighting in 2007 and since then has served time, can't even receive an award? Don't get me wrong, I am a HUGE animal lover, I rescue/foster dogs and 2 of my own dogs are rescues, but really people?? Think about this long and hard, what happened to forgiveness? Where does this hate stem from?

The man has served his time and paid his dues. And why do people use their celebrity status to encourage this ignorance? I adore Joanna, I even voted for her while she was on Dancing with the Stars, but maybe she needs to do her homework before posting next time. Yes, there are NFL players that are convicted murderers, look them up. I am not here to slander anyone's name or reputation, but what I am here to do is to say WHY??? Hasn't Michael Vick been served enough scrutiny? I think people need to promote LOVE and not HATE, it's 2010 after all, it's about opening your heart and forgiving, if we continue to live in the past, what does that say about our future?

DAY 5: ONE STEP AT A TIME

DAY 5: ONE STEP AT A TIME. It's official, Friday is going to be DOWNLOAD Friday. If you don't own an MP3 player or an iPod by now, you need to come out from that rock you've been under! Music definitely keeps me inspired and is a great mood changer, don't lie, you know that you strut your stuff when you hear Beyonce's "Diva". It's ok, Miss Diva, that is how the music is suppose to influence you. Your iPod should be stacked full of upbeat, workout music that keeps your heartbeat elevated and keeps your energy up!




Try these to keep you going:

• "Best I Ever Had" Drake
• "Run This Town" Jay Z. featuring Rihanna and Kanye West
• "Obsessed" Mariah Carey
• "21 Guns" Green Day
• "Heard 'em All" Amerie
• "Backwards Down the Number Line" Phish
• "Relator" Pete Yorn featuring Scarlett Johansson
• "Cowboy Cassanova" Carrie Underwood
• "Good Girls Go Bad" Cobra Starship featuring Leighton Meester
• "She Wolf" Shakira
• "Down" Jay Sean featuring Lil Wayne
• "I Gotta Feeling" Black Eyed Peas
• "La La La" LMFAO
• "Falling Away" Jupiter Rising
• "Free Your Mind" EnVogue
• "We Run LA" Dr. Hollywood
• "Womanizer" Britney Spears
• "Straight Through My Heart" Backstreet Boys
• "Dirrty" Christina Aguilera
• "Manic Monday" The Bangles
• "Diva" Beyonce
• "New York" JayZ featuring Alicia Keyes
• "Greenlight" John Legend featuring Andre 3000
• "Don't Walk Away" Jade
• "So What" Pink
• "Rock What You Got" Superchick
• "Shut Up and Let Me Go" The Ting Tings
• "Show Me What I'm Looking For" Carolina Liar
• "Sex on Fire" Kings of Leon
• "Black Velvet" Alannah Myles
• "Walk this Way" Run DMC featuring Aerosmith

 This is a great re-cap of 2009, . . .now get your workout on! Feel good and look good, it's the only way to be a 10 in 2010!